Why do I get horny when I’m studying?

I have a midterm coming up next Saturday. Not being enough the struggle with the subject: statistic of business, I have a peculiar habit that can really take me out of track:

Every time I’m studying at home I need to stop and masturbate.

Theory #1: I’m an incurable sapiosexual aka nerd

I’m a sapiosexual, meaning someone who finds intelligence sexually attractive or arousing. When I’m interacting with someone — it does not matter the gender — and the person starts talking about a topic I either don’t know about it, am curious about or am passionate about it I just get super excited. Excited to a point that I’m aroused and fantasizing about the person’s brain. It’s a trigger to make me ask about their eating habits, morning routines, workout, family…everything.

My bookshelf in my room: “Smart is the new sex”.

Theory #2: Books and sex are imprinted in my brain

I develop my sexuality at a very early age, around six I would say. Growing up, my main and only focus was school. I’m the type of nerd who used to get home after class and without even changing clothes would start doing homework. I was always obsessed with results. I wanted to see straight A’s — all the times. At this same time, I was also exploring my own body. In general, my “me-time” sessions would happen in the middle of the afternoon when I was alone at home, studying. Perhaps, the relation between studying and sex is imprinted in my brain. And that’s the reason why until now when I see a book I get tickles.

Theory #3 Studying sucks and all I want is a “fun procrastination”

That’s a more “scientific” one. I talked to the sex-therapist at Pillow Play, Kate Moyle, once about it. She explained that often when people are bored or doing something they don’t want to do e.g. revision then masturbation /sex / snacking/things that feel good can be a welcome distraction from what we are focusing on.

“It’s a fun form of procrastination”, she said.

Then, Moley kind of reinforce my two previous theory. She told me that I might have built up an association between doing that kind of work and feeling horny too. “That’s because you have done it a few times you have then started associating the two”, she said.

My personal solution to be more productive

Whenever I can, I go o cafés. In OC, there’s a Starbucks where everyone knows my name and preferences — which shows how often I hang out there. In Long Beach, I love going to Berlin, by Portfolio CoffeHouse — which by the way is owned by a woman who immigrated from Germany. ;-)

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